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Could the streets really have the audacity to applaud lyrically side eying a woman who is entitled to half of her cheating husband's earnings if they were to divorce? Here's the thing- She can't be in the gym, she is the rock he comes home to when he's done at the gym. It is his duty as a husband to keep the family together, he made the promise, and he signed that contract in addition to the one that comes with the hoop glory and jersey fame.
We're more than a decade into the 21st century. I'd hoped — in vain — that some basic understandings of how non-Black people should interact with Black people could be something I could take for granted. But no. Somehow there are "those people" who remain entirely clueless, so much so that they will call a 9-year old the c-word, or paint a white model bronze-Black, or not even, as so-called, journalists, bother to learn the pronunciation of an Oscar nominee's name. This is unacceptable. Read more at http://www.thefrisky.com/2013-03-01/10-things-every-non-black-person-should-know-by-now-about-black-women/
Friday, 01 March 2013 15:51

Why men are turned off by you

Are you a powerful, career-driven woman? Do you find that men are intimidated by you? Do you wonder whether this is a normal dynamic in the dating scene? If so, help is on the way. Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2013175204/are-men-too-intimidated-to-date-successful-women-video
Thursday, 28 February 2013 00:00

How You're Ruining Your Relationship

Are you creating a wedge between you and the men who love you? If you're favoring your masculine side too much, you sure are! We all want to experience true love. Being in a healthy, loving relationship is an absolutely magical feeling. But if you're a strong, capable, independent woman, you could be unknowingly blocking yourself from love. Read more at http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sherri-nickols/5-ways-living-your-masculine-energy-blocks-love-expert
Wednesday, 27 February 2013 15:07

10 rules for women who are unlucky in love

Too often, I see female friends devastated by their dating experiences. Despite their best efforts, men never treat them the way they deserve to be treated. And, as their friend, it is heartbreaking to watch them make the same mistakes over and over again. I recently realized that their lack of success in dating has very little to do with the men they date. Rather, it has to do with how my friends approach dating. They become too emotionally entrenched in the experience too quickly and fail to see how they create problematic dating dynamics. You see, I used to make these same mistakes. That is, until I recognized my part in the process and began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. So, based on my own experiences, as well as what I've seen from my friends, I've come up with the following rules that every woman should follow: Read more at http://www.yourtango.com/experts/michelle-lewis/dating-rules-women-expert-0
Tuesday, 26 February 2013 15:05

5 Ways To Overcome Trust Issues

If there is one thing I've learned in life it's that a man or woman with severe trust issues becomes a magnet for malice and disrespect wherever they go. They can acquire large amounts of money, crowd approval and plaques with certifications and accolades but it's those silent moments alone that really make or break us. Having trust issues is like carry a backpack full of bricks around daily, with each step the load becomes heavier and not a soul knows until the person attempts to open up. With every new encounter and relationship they stay questioning, accusing and judging, wrapped up in a thick blanket of paranoia. Why wouldn't they be? If you have been cut down enough or betrayed after years of loyalty the thought of experiencing that trauma once again is too much to bear. The warmth of the blanket is deceptive, this is not an ideal way to function, emotionally held hostage. Read more at http://up4discussion.org/5-ways-to-overcome-trust-issues/
Friday, 22 February 2013 16:50

A Wedding At Home Could Be A Huge Mi$take

If I only had a dollar for every bride who came to me and said, "I'm going to get married at home and save so much money!" I also hear, "My uncle has a HUGE yard and we're going to have the wedding there so I can save lots of cash!" Ummm.....think again. Your house, your grandma's house, your uncle's house...they will all cost you a TON. Most brides are thinking that they'll save hundreds, if not thousands, by not paying a room rental fee. They also think that they can get their favorite friend/restaurant/family member to provide catering, so they won't pay the high cost of using the catering provided by the popular hotel that they originally considered. While you don't have to pay a room rental fee, there are LOTS of other things you have to pay for: -You may need a tent in case of rain or extreme heat. -You might need sides for the tent and air-conditioning if it's just too darn hot to be outside. -You need to rent tables, chairs, linens, plates, glasses, silverware... -You need lights for the outdoor space if your event is going to go into the evening. You can't have…
Thursday, 21 February 2013 15:55

Should You Confront The Other Woman?

If you've been keeping up with your daily HelloBeautiful dish then you know that Gabrielle Union recently made headlines for her response to an open letter written by an alleged jumpoff. It was cold, I had to layer up after reading the tweets I really did. I can't lie I was secretly having a "yes girl tell em" moment in my head but then I snapped back to reality. If the open letter was from a "crazy batsh*t loon" who tried this stunt a year before then why not let crazy be crazy and continue living good? Whether you are Chocolate Hollywood fabulous like Gabrielle Union or the best braider on your block, the moment you announce the word relationship there will be folks who will try your patience and put your love to the test. Unfortunately it's what you sign up for. Jealously and folks who live in the past are like cancers and they thrive in all neighborhoods across the world. There will always be someone who doesn't like the way you walk or dress. There will be someone who has a problem with the type of man you choose to be with or the career path you…
Wednesday, 20 February 2013 17:26

10 Rules For Women Who Are Unlucky In Love

Dating got you down? Your approach may need a makeover. Too often, I see female friends devastated by their dating experiences. Despite their best efforts, men never treat them the way they deserve to be treated. And, as their friend, it is heartbreaking to watch them make the same mistakes over and over again. I recently realized that their lack of success in dating has very little to do with the men they date. Rather, it has to do with how my friends approach dating. They become too emotionally entrenched in the experience too quickly and fail to see how they create problematic dating dynamics. You see, I used to make these same mistakes. That is, until I recognized my part in the process and began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. So, based on my own experiences, as well as what I've seen from my friends, I've come up with the following rules that every woman should follow: 1. Get off the pity train. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Let go of the self-defeating thoughts holding you back. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only…
Tuesday, 19 February 2013 15:28

What To Do When You Suspect He's Cheating

Six steps to follow when you suspect he's up to no good. If you are asking yourself, "Is he cheating?" you probably sense something is off in your relationship. Too often women doubt themselves in favor of accepting a cheater's lies. But "Is he cheating?" is a brave question to ask. It means you trust your own instincts instead of the lies he's offering. Facing the reality of your relationship can be difficult. However, it also can help you see your relationship more clearly. The following six steps can help you grow emotionally, whether or not he is actually cheating on you: 1. Identify your feelings. You are the expert on yourself. If you're so busy that you are unaware of your feelings, you are missing out on a precious gift. You are unique and have inherent worth just for being you. You deserve to be cherished and treated respectfully physically, emotionally and spiritually. Start by identifying what you are feeling. Usually, anger is the tip of the iceberg. There are deeper feelings which fuel it. Try to identify those feelings. Journaling is a great tool to help you vent your feelings and identify those deeper feelings. Sometimes drawing a…
Monday, 18 February 2013 15:25

Guide to Long-Term Relationship Success

Most of us want to meet and settle down with the "right" person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Have you ever seen an elderly couple holding hands, taking a romantic walk on the beach or in a park? You may think to yourself: "That's how I want to be when I grow old." It's a wonderful notion: having someone as your mate in a happy and lasting relationship. At the same time, over fifty percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. Between what we want, and the reality of our society, there's a deep chasm of false hopes and unfulfilled promises. What are some of the most important ideas when it comes to making your love last? Below are seven keys to long-term relationship success. http://www.blackloveandmarriage.com/2013/02/7-simple-questions-that-can-guide-you-to-long-term-relationship-success/
Friday, 15 February 2013 16:23

The Five Stages of a Breakup

There seem to be only two responses to Valentine's Day: You're either all "Weee! Hearts, stars and rainbows, possibly a ring! BUY ME ALL THE CANDY!" or you're posting sad tweets about the date you have with a pair of yoga pants and "The Notebook." There is a middle ground (not caring or buying into the expectation of expectation because after all, we all know it's a product of marketing, so why give any attention at all past your own desires, right?), but for those of us still trying to get over a breakup, Valentine's Day isn't just a nuisance, it's a pain. A chocolate knife right through the conversation heart. This Valentine's Day, if you're trying to exorcise a love ghost, you're going to have to be honest with yourself. You're going to experience the following: Denial: You know how after celebs break up, they immediately appear on the cover of People magazine or wherever over a giant headline like "Single and Better Than Ever!"? These people are lying. They are dying inside. The sooner you admit to yourself that you are not, at the moment, a strong vibrant figure loosed from the chains of love, the sooner you…
Thursday, 14 February 2013 21:41

Top Black Sites for Online Love (Poll)

Black Singles is a fantastic site, with a proven reputation for bringing Black Singles together. Black Singles, ran by the Spark Networks (one of the largest and most popular networks of dating sites in the world), is one of the most popular dating sites online for black daters. With more than 1,000 new members joining every day Black Singles offers users the opportunity to hook up with loads of great new users every month. Users can search through and... » Read the Full Review of BlackSingles.com   Afro Introductions is a great black dating site, devoted to providing a fantastic online community perfect for uniting people and bringing about long-lasting relationships. Afro Introductions is part of the Cupid Media network of sites, a group of more than 30 dating sites that have a reputation for providing quality services to their users. All of the Cupid Media sites are focused towards a particular user group, and Afro Introductions, is of course, no different. With a vast range... » Read the Full Review of AfroIntroductions.com   Soul Singles is a great site, focused on getting African-American, Haitian, Jamaican and Interracial hooked up in a great online dating environment. With a number of…
Thursday, 14 February 2013 00:00

How Technology Has Changed Romance

(CNN) -- When it comes to romance, texting is often seen as a bare-minimum form of communication. It's fine for firming up Wednesday night dinner plans, but for expressing heartfelt sentiments? Not so much. That was made pretty clear last week when reality TV star Kristin Cavallari had to defend her fiancé, Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler, from those who poked fun at her story of their second engagement. "I was in the airport, leaving Chicago," Cavallari, 26, tells E! News in an upcoming reality special about her nuptials. "We had just spent however many days together and we were texting and somehow it came up, like, 'Oh, shall we get married?' We're like, 'Yeah, OK.'" The couple were first engaged in 2011 but split up briefly before reconciling that same year. Even so, Cutler faced criticism over what many saw as a too casual digital proposal. Cavallari later pleaded on Twitter for people to "stop bashing Jay" because he had proposed earlier in Mexico "and it was very romantic." In the digital age, technology isn't killing courtship. But for many young couples, it's redefining what romance looks like. Online dating boosts economies Using faith to find a date Baby…