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Monday, 21 January 2013 15:40

5 Date Night Ideas For When You're Sick

This year we saw one of the worst outbreaks of the flu virus on record. You probably don't feel your sexiest when you're sick, but there are plenty of ways to keep the romance alive even when the flu's got you down. Here are five stay-at-home date ideas for when you've both got the flu. 1. Movie night Nothing is better than curling up with a good movie, lots of blankets and a hot cup of tea when you're not feeling well. Why not include your man on the action? Run out to rent a movie or check out what your cable provider has to offer, slip into your favorite cozy pajamas, get the kettle going and cuddle up in bed or on the couch. We guarantee you'll be feeling better in no time. Plus, he's more likely to agree to that chick flick you've been dying to see when he's sick and in no mood to argue. 2. Sick day TV marathon News channels and doctors have been warning everyone: if you don't feel well, please stay home! Take advantage of a day at home with your guy. Spend the day catching up on a series online or on…
Friday, 18 January 2013 16:46

7 Commandments Of A Successful Marriage

Every married person knows not to cheat, to be honest and to be there for their partner through the best of times and the worst. But most the happiest couples know that there are also some unspoken rules that are just as vital for growing stronger as a couple. Such as... 1. Don't criticize your partner's parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That's why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband's dearest friends. "Even when they're venting to you, your contributions can put your spouse on the defensive," explains LeslieBeth Wish, EdD, a Florida-based psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. 2. Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your kid's soccer game, keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex. "If there's nothing to hide, why hide it?" says Deb Castaldo, PhD, a couples and family therapist and professor at Rutgers University School of Social Work in New Brunswick, NJ. 3. Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend…
There is no shortage of media dedicated to addressing the 'epidemic' of singleness in our society. We're entertained by men and women who discuss their plights as to why each of them, as a quality candidate, is still single. There are never enough quality men to choose from, women say. There are always too many "high potential" women to sort through, men complain. And so on and so on. Unfortunately, too many of us have a higher self-appraisal of ourselves than what others are willing to view as true relationship value. It's sort of like the homeowner who thinks their home is worth $400,000, when the true market value based on recent sales is really $300,000. Sometimes, you need to be your harshest critic. On the relationship market, think of yourself as an asset that requires investment. Physical – What is your current physical status? Do you eat healthy? Physical attraction isn't necessarily based on looks, but your ability to present yourself in a manner that accents you as an individual (i.e., via your attire, grooming, nails, etc.). Professional – Are you where you desire to be professionally? If not, are you taking steps to achieve your goals? Your professional…
Monday, 14 January 2013 15:46

4 Dating Pitfalls Of Intelligent Women

  If you're an Intellectual Badass (IB), you're bound to date people who aren't as smart as you. Either you'll know more about your specific area of expertise, or you'll outsmart them across the board. As with any asset, a formidable intellect can work against you in dating. If you're bright and you want to succeed at dating, there are some pitfalls to avoid: 1. Being a know-it-all. Some IBs are like human encyclopedias. You can be sitting at dinner, drinking wine, and this person will go on and on about the science behind winemaking. Or, no matter what topic you bring up, this person knows more about it and wants to make sure you know that. So how do you share your knowledge, which the right person will find fascinating, without boring or annoying them? Start small — make a comment about why hot days and cool evenings make for better wine. If they're really into it, they'll ask for more. But even then, don't go on and on. 2. Talking down to your date. Yes, at some point you will date someone who says something you disagree with or, even more challenging, something that's just plain wrong. But…
Friday, 11 January 2013 12:38

Dating Lessons We Can Learn From Men

There are some areas in dating and in life where women can sure benefit by taking a lesson from men. John Gray says that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and I happen to agree. So let's take a look at what we can learn from our Martian brothers, shall we? Men are not drama queens — at least, straight men aren't. They keep their dramas and dating disasters to themselves. They want to be brave and show no weakness. So often women will remark about their partners, "It's like pulling teeth to get him to talk about his problems." By nature, men are controlled, competitive and defensive. They hide their emotions to stay in control. From the time they are little boys men are taught to "act like a man" or told, "men don't cry." Women tend to love to rehash every aspect of their lives, especially their relationships, so much so that many even write books and blogs about their experiences! If a man has a problem he will withdraw and take care of business. Women tend to spill their guts to a man on a first or second date and tell them everything from…
Thursday, 10 January 2013 16:23

3 Ways To Be More Trusting In Relationships

When I would hear the word intimacy I used to think about fluffy duvets, a glazed doughnut look in the eyes, and morning sex. I made the assumption that intimacy was purely a physical act that involved getting close and sensual as opposed to down and dirty. I was partly right, true physical intimacy is the result of emotional intimacy which is based upon trust, connectedness, and openness. What scary words: Trust, connect, and open. It leaves no room for having the last word, social media stalking and thinking that they are all the same. In fact the games, and the need to win or be safe disappears altogether when you are truly intimate with someone. In as recent post I briefly discussed 3 ways women repel men without realizing it and one of the ways was by being too closed emotionally. This includes: giving silent treatment, having very high expectations for anyone you date, and often avoiding "deep' conversation matter and telling whole truths. By deep I do not mean an hour long monologue of how you are this perfect woman and all the men in your life have done you wrong, or about your extensive knowledge of the…
Tuesday, 08 January 2013 15:32

Is Your Spouse Too Clingy?

It's one thing to be close to your boyfriend; it's something else altogether to be clingy. You hate it. He hates it. And it feels like you're both trapped. Clinginess is a form of dependency, which is not, in itself, a bad thing. But when it deepens into desperation, watch out! Let's look at how some people get clingy and what can be done about it: Normal Dependence: Yes, a good relationship involves a certain sense of dependence or, as Stephen Covey (Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) calls it, interdependence. We are not built to be alone. When you've had a bad day, you would expect your partner to comfort you, just as you should be there for him, if he comes down with the flu. Mutual dependency is one of the hallmarks of health in a relationship. Good relationships are flexible. Sometimes you need him. Sometimes he needs you. And often you just enjoy being with each other, in a sense of mutual comfort. If he is out late, you may be jealous or upset, but it passes quickly because you know that you are safe. Clinginess is Dependency Gone Wild: Clinginess stems from a void in the…
Thursday, 03 January 2013 18:40

Your Love and Money Tip Sheet for 2013

As we launch into 2013 there are undoubtedly a number of people compiling their list of goals to accomplish. For many this list of goals will include the search for love and the desire for a healthy relationship. Let's be honest, most people desire to have someone 'special' to spend their lives with so they don't grow old alone. For others, 2013 will include the desire to improve their financial lives. Who doesn't want to increase their monthly income while reducing their overall debt? Your love and money goals are attainable if you put the proper plan in place to begin your 2013 journey. Consider the following as you develop your Love & Money Plan for 2013: Figure Out Who YOU Really Are – Until you figure out who you really are, you'll waste your life away trying to please and live up to the expectations of others. It's a lot easier being who you really are instead of playing the charade of who someone else wants you to be. Surround Yourself with Good People – It's often said that birds of a feather flock together. Surround yourself with people who have experienced love & demonstrate healthy marriages. You're more…
Tuesday, 01 January 2013 03:30

Finding Love In 2013

Is one of your New Year's resolutions to find love? Here are nine easy steps you can take to help you reach your goal. 1. Be ready for it. Are you emotionally open to love? If you're holding a grudge from your former relationship, either let it go resolve it so you don't bring those negative feelings into your new relationship. Think about it, you prepare for everything else in your life — the space in your head shouldn't be any different. Clean it up and make it presentable for the new year. 2. Know what you want. Are you looking for something casual? Or do you want to get married? Either way, it helps to know what you want. Otherwise, you'll waste your time dating people who clearly aren't right for you. 3. Accept imperfection. Some people set their standards so high that they never find anyone who meets them. Then, they wonder why they are alone. Don't let yourself fall into this age-old trap in 2013. 4. Get out there. Prince charming is not going to come and knocking on your door. Attend events and take classes where there are likely to be men. A sailing class or…
Thursday, 27 December 2012 15:30

Getting Over Breakup Bitterness

Are you still feeling bitter about a breakup you went through ages ago? Don't let bitterness keep you from finding love! Here are five steps to help you move on with your life: 1. Own your feelings. After a relationship ends, it is pretty difficult not to harbor some feelings of resentment and bitterness that it did not turn out the way you hoped Feelings of disappointment, rejection, anger, humiliation and bitterness are common. It is essential to the process of moving past these difficult emotions to first recognize and acknowledge exactly what your particular emotional response to this experience is. How did your partner fail you? What is your resentment about? This process can begin after you have gone through the initial reaction to the breakup. Some time must pass before you will be ready to process your feelings in an effective way. When you feel ready, spend some time exploring these feelings on your own. 2. Take care of yourself and reach out for support. This seems elementary, but sometimes, in times of crisis, people turn inward and disappear from trusted friends and family. When this happens, you will feel even more isolated, and may become convinced that…
Wednesday, 26 December 2012 16:00

Make 'It' Official

You were going along swimmingly dating and getting to know other fabulous singles then all of the sudden you meet someone that you want to spend the majority of your time with. You may not be sure if you're ready to totally change your relationship status, but you know that you've found something worth exploring. Here are some clues that you may be interested in going from 'single' to 'taken' with a new love-interest. 1. You're spending weekend nights together There are certain nights of the week that you reserve for those you are really into. Traditionally speaking these are usually Friday and Saturday nights. If you and your love-interest are choosing to arrange regular dates on these nights, you two may be heading towards something more serious. 2. You include each other in your various activities and plan to spend a lot of time together You may not be spending every waking moment together, but you and your love-interest are regularly inviting each other to join in on each other's social plans. Especially if these plans involve close friends or family, the two of you may be on your way to something more serious. http://www.yourtango.com/experts/singles-warehouse/are-you-ready-change-your-relationship-status
Monday, 24 December 2012 17:04

Date Outside the Box

When setting up an online profile, along with adding a knock-em-dead photo and writing an eye catching bio, part of the process is selecting what it is that you are looking for in a partner. Selections range from age, religion and child preference to hobbies, ethnicity and previous marital status. By selecting certain parameters, the selection pool narrows itself and available options are then shown to you. However, there are certain boxes that may have been placed in your own mind that, although may not appear in the profile questionnaire, limit your options even further. If you have decided you will never date someone in the military, you have just excluded tens of millions of potential dating partners. If you have decided you won't date someone who is from another country, an entire geographic region has just been denied access to the chance of getting to know you. When you begin dating, it's important to expand your options and be open to new situations and circumstances. This does not mean switching religions, although many successful relationships are the union of two different faiths. This means removing barriers or stereotypes that you may have about certain groups or opportunities. Do you…
Friday, 21 December 2012 16:04

Gifts for your Significant Other

The holidays are approaching and so is the all important question: What do I give my significant other for Christmas? Well, what if your significant other isn't quite so significant? The "situationship" is an all too real reality of dating now. It's someone you like, but for whatever reason he or she isn't your official boo. Still, you like them enough to want to kick it with them, talk to them fairly exclusively and spend intimate moments with them, so they mean something to you — even if you don't quite know what that something is. So, do you get this person a gift? The decision (to give or not to give) can actually set a different tone in the situation...ship. And, the type of gift can send a message that you may or may not want to send. So, here are a few suggestions on what to get your "friend": 1. Fancy Toiletry Kit: You like this person, you want them to stick around, right? Buy the supplies that say hey, I want you around. Pack a nice toothbrush, their favorite brand of personal hygiene products and some sexy underwear in a nice basket. 2. A Semi/Pseudo Date: Do…
Thursday, 20 December 2012 15:47

Working Through Stress

"Stress impacts our love relationships more than we are aware of or acknowledge," according to Judy Ford, a licensed clinical social worker and author of Every Day Love: The Delicate Art of Caring for Each Other. Part of the problem is that stress is entrenched in our everyday. "Stress has become such a normal part of daily life that partners become immune to the symptoms and warning signs," she said. Ignoring stress only ignites it. "Even when a couple tries to ignore stress, like static in the air, it is felt and absorbed." If partners do talk about being stressed, they may not know what to do about it, Ford added. Also, "stress is contagious." Ford compared stress to a game of ping-pong, where the tension "bounces back and forth between partners." Partners become both unable to relax and enjoy each other, she said. Stress "shows up in our actions, our behavior, and in both verbal and non-verbal communications," so it's bound to not only affect both partners but also their relationship. "Stressed-out couples quarrel and fight more often, withdraw from each other, feel disconnected, sad, frustrated, angry." Ongoing unchecked stress can create bigger problems. "Long-term stress can turn to…