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Wednesday, 07 November 2012 16:03

How Much Should You Tell

One of my recent HB posts The One Thing That Separates Women From Girls In Relationships generated a lot of readers responses, thank you beauties! I received quite a few emails and stalked the HB Facebook page looking for comments from readers with what they believe separated women from girls, boy did I get some great responses. The answer that stuck out from all the others I read was this one:"A woman knows how to keep her business to herself whereas girls tell everybody everything." ~ N. Scott There are several ways to take this statement, blasting your relationship biz all over the streets is probably more of a giggly girl move than a grown ass woman move, however that interpretation is a little too common for me...let's dig deeper shall we? One of the biggest misconceptions about communication in a relationship is that you must tell your partner everything about yourself or day in order to keep it afloat. This belief has caused arguments and many misunderstandings especially where male-female relationships are concerned. Many times women believe that if she can tell a man everything and he "listens" it must means he cares about her. I cannot tell you…
Tuesday, 06 November 2012 14:13

Dating Mistakes Singles Make

"Why does dating have to be so hard?" That is the question that most of my clients always seem to ask during our initial consultation process. Nobody really teaches us how to date. Most of us learn by years of trial and error, some of us learn by observing and others are still in the process of trying to figure out what works for them. They say hind sight is 20/20 but even then, sometimes we find ourselves getting caught up in some of these infamous dating traps that keep us on our search for finding "The One." This past week, I surveyed a few of my clients and followers in an effort to keep up with some of the challenges they have been experiencing. Here were the top 6 mistakes that singles make and my tips on how to overcome them. 1. Dating without a purposeThis is something that applies strictly to those who are really on a search to get booed up. If you are dating with the intent of finding a partner, then you should make sure that your actions compliment your wants and needs. This means if your date tells you that they are looking for…
Monday, 05 November 2012 09:00

3 Signs Your Ex Still In Love

3 Signs That Indicate Your Ex Still Loves You. Does he want me back? It is a question you are in search for an answer to. You can't do it. Despite the effort you make, moving on without your ex boyfriend will not just happen. How can it? You still have strong feelings for him and getting over him and falling in love with another man is futile. The problem you are encountering at the moment is you aren't clear in your mind where his feelings are. You observe a few signs that you believe signify he still has feelings for you however you are in doubt. You fret that you are reading way more into his actions than he have in mind. Short of asking him if he still loves you, is there any other means to know? There are in fact several signs in his actions towards you. 1. How often does he get in touch with you? To determine whether he wants you back can be found in how often he gets in touch with you. A lot of men are feeling just as susceptible as women do after a relationship ends. They don't want to take…
Friday, 02 November 2012 14:37

Can Hypnosis Save Your Relationship

Even the happiest couples experience relationship slumps at some point. So how do you keep things from going from bad to worse? Hypnosis could be the answer, world renowned hypnotist Tom Silver said on "The Jeff Probst Show" Wednesday. Silver told Probst that the focused attention demanded by hypnosis could potentially save a troubled relationship: "[Couples] get comfortable and it's like, 'You didn't do this for me, I'm not doing this for you,' and all of a sudden, you've lost something, you've lost that essense of that love and that relationship," he said. "Under hypnosis, you can rekindle that -- you can even bring back the same emotions they felt when they first met." According to the International Association of Pure Hypnoanalysts, hypnosis is a state of relaxation in which someone remains completely awake and susceptible to suggestions. Though the technique can be used to "modify your perceptions [and] behavior," persons remain completely in control of their actions, according to the Mayo Clinic. Click the link below to watch the video and hear what else Silver has to say. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/31/marriage-advice-can-hypno_n_2050382.html?ir=Weddings
Thursday, 01 November 2012 15:06

Spice it Up with Yoga

Has your love life gone from sizzle to fizzle? You don't have to memorize the Kama Sutra to spice things up between the sheets. In fact, it's the positions you assume outside the bedroom that could really heat things up. According to research in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, sexually dissatisfied women who took up yoga and practiced mindfulness techniques reported higher levels of arousal and desire, and better orgasms. To reap similar benefits, perform the 10 poses below at least three times a week, spending a minute or so in each position. If this is your first time practicing yoga, don't worry; we've linked each pose to a video tutorial so you can learn them at your own pace. Wide-Legged Straddle Pose (Upavistha Konasana) "This move is good for low libido," says yoga instructor Kate Hanley, author of The Anywhere, Anytime Chill Guide. "It improves blood flow to the pelvic area, and where the blood goes, so do energy and vitality." Research shows that below-the-belt circulation is directly linked to arousal. The more blood coursing through your veins, the higher your "state of enlightenment."  Shoulder Stand (Salamba Sarvangasana) Sagging skin isn't the only effect of the Earth's downward pull.…
Wednesday, 31 October 2012 14:02

Dating Via Text Sends Mixed Messages

"What do you like to do for fun?" I read the text from the stocky, caramel-complected, hazel-eyed man I'd met three weeks prior walking to the train on my way to work one Wednesday morning. It's been 20 days since Mel and I met and reading this text had me all up in my thoughts. Most of our conversations have been confined to texts and I had become used to it. I heard somewhere that it takes 21 days to form a habit. And here was ours–a literal communication breakdown. Mel isn't the first person that I've dated behind words on a smart phone screen. While I can argue that as a busy young professional, texting is convenient for me, I know that dating via text sends mixed messages.I can't even count the amount of times I've found myself typing out full paragraphs back and forth and never wondered once why this wasn't a face-to-face interaction. More than likely I'd be juggling working out, hanging out with friends, some after-work event, writing, twisting my hair or watching my favorite show. Maybe one or all of these could use some time off so that my date could see me giggle at…
Tuesday, 30 October 2012 15:02

Do You Really Like Him?

I've never really been the girl who took dating too seriously. I'm only 25 and prior to now, my main priority was having fun—and of course studying too. There were only a few guys (two or three) I actually developed feelings for. While dating them, I truly believed that I had genuine feelings for them. And maybe I did somewhere in the mix of things, but for the most part, I realized that I was just attracted to the idea of them. Whether it was the boy who spoiled me crazy with gifts, or the "bad boy" on the opposite side of my lifestyle, or the one with promises that he had his stuff together; they were all cool and each possessed some great qualities, but when those relationships came to a halt, so did my feelings. I was able to let them go and not look back. I remember wondering, "Aren't I supposed to be depressed and watching 'Pretty Woman' over a pint of Ben & Jerry's?" While I was happy that I wasn't severely saddened, I knew that there was a reason for my nonchalant attitude and perhaps I wasn't wrapped up in them the way I thought…
Monday, 29 October 2012 19:50

Sexy Tricks & Treats

If the Halloween party invitations on your coffee table aren't as enticing as you'd hoped, you should plan to stay in. Host a private party for two filled with sexy, fall-inspired tricks (and treats!) that will drive him wild. Now, let the party planning begin! Read on to find out how to turn up the spice tonight. Wear a Sexy Costume to Bed Playing pretend with your lover adds instant excitement between the sheets. Go to the nearest Halloween superstore and pick up the naughtiest costume you can find, then head home for a private party. Get Closer at a Scary Movie All men like to feel needed. (Even by the strongest of women!) Grab two tickets to the closest in-theater fright fest and curl up together in the back row. Each time you jump at the suspense, he'll only want to hold you closer. Assuming you make it through the entire movie (wink!), all of that intimacy will only make sparks fly when you get back home. Share S'mores and Fantasies By the Fire Need a new way to put a romantic spin on a fall tradition? Light a fire, make s'mores and swap fantasies while the fire burns…
Monday, 29 October 2012 14:38

Loving your husband better

If he seems to be losing interest, it could be that you haven't been showing him enough interest.Does it feel like your marriage is slowly unraveling? Do you get the sense that your husband feels disenchanted with your union and is disinterested in you? Your marriage may need a buff and polish. Communicate From An Open Heart Lots of nice wives, who go to church and have the respect of their families and communities, have an energy about them that makes their husbands feel castrated. There is nothing attractive to a man about a woman who treats him like a son who needs to learn his lesson or do as he is told. Your husband is not another variable in your life that needs to be controlled and managed. Gaining his love and devotion isn't something squeezed into your weekly to-do list. Even if you are using all the right words, you may still be talking at him or down to him instead of with him. Talk with your husband from a soft, loving, gentle and tender place inside you. If you feel icy and angry, he's going to feel that coming off you no matter how proper and kind…
Friday, 26 October 2012 14:48

He Won't Work!

I'm friends with an older woman who by a wing and a prayer seems to singlehandedly carry the financial burden of her family on her back while her husband passively (and when I say passively, I'm being generous) looks for work. One might say that due to the tough economy there are many husbands who are out of work; however that isn't the case in this particular situation seeing as her husband hasn't been gainfully employed for the last 15+ years. I always look at the situation a bit confused and I have to occasionally ask her what is keeping her around. Her response is always "Someday, when you're married you'll understand." I get it. Marriage is a bridge that I haven't had the privilege of crossing, yet. But, something about the thought of a man who refuses to assist in financially supporting his family leaves me somewhat perplexed. I realize that in most wedding vows the couple promises to stick together for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, but most brides would imagine that this is in reference to unforeseen and unfortunate events such as sickness, a lay-off, etc., not that her groom flat out makes the…
Thursday, 25 October 2012 15:08

Forgiving After Cheating

Cheating devastates a relationship. The effect of his behavior creates emotional heartache and discord within the relationship. A relationship is truly devastated. Cheating is a common topic discussed among men and women. Why cheat? Why not just leave? But there is another resulting question – should you take him back? Will you turn a blind eye to cheating or walk away at the first sign? This is a difficult decision to make until you are staring in its face. But, if you choose to continue a relationship after a bout of infidelity, there is hope. I will forewarn you that there must be a strong willingness on both parts to repair the relationship in order for these tips to work. Without further ado... 5 tips to repair your relationship after infidelity. 1. Forgive. One of the most difficult tasks is to forgive. Why is it so difficult though? Holding on to forgiveness eventually turns into bitterness, which is like drinking poison wishing the other person would die. These negative feelings do more harm to you than anyone else. The best course of action is to deal with those emotions head on and determine what it will take for you to…
Wednesday, 24 October 2012 14:19

I’m Single & Free!

I got a bittersweet phone call from one of my sister-friends (a bff who's like a sister) a few days ago. She just landed a social advocacy opportunity in Thailand and will be gone for two years. My other sister-friend practices law in D.C., and I do editorial work in NYC and Jersey.We all started out together—three wide-eyed, outgoing girls in a small Georgian suburb. While it was our drive and spontaneous personalities that led us thousands of miles away from our hometown, it was our freedom from serious committed relationships and children that made it possible.I'm not saying that tying the knot and/or having cute little rug-rats completely eliminates your experiences, but it certainly does impact them. Growing up in a small, southern, conservative suburb, it was common for my more "traditional" peers to jokingly comment about my "Ms. Independent" ways. Every time I'd meet a guy who was half-way decent, my homegirls would encourage me to "hold on to him" because "he's a keeper." They'd say things like, "Girl, you're gonna end up alone if you keep on." I dated, but I intentionally didn't let dating consume my life while so young; I wanted something bigger. I wanted–and…
Wednesday, 24 October 2012 14:19

I’m Single & Free!

I got a bittersweet phone call from one of my sister-friends (a bff who's like a sister) a few days ago. She just landed a social advocacy opportunity in Thailand and will be gone for two years. My other sister-friend practices law in D.C., and I do editorial work in NYC and Jersey.We all started out together—three wide-eyed, outgoing girls in a small Georgian suburb. While it was our drive and spontaneous personalities that led us thousands of miles away from our hometown, it was our freedom from serious committed relationships and children that made it possible.I'm not saying that tying the knot and/or having cute little rug-rats completely eliminates your experiences, but it certainly does impact them. Growing up in a small, southern, conservative suburb, it was common for my more "traditional" peers to jokingly comment about my "Ms. Independent" ways. Every time I'd meet a guy who was half-way decent, my homegirls would encourage me to "hold on to him" because "he's a keeper." They'd say things like, "Girl, you're gonna end up alone if you keep on." I dated, but I intentionally didn't let dating consume my life while so young; I wanted something bigger. I wanted–and…
Tuesday, 23 October 2012 19:24

Communicating In The Modern Age

Except when my boyfriend and I are in each other's company, we communicate exclusively through text message and Facebook chats. Over the past six months that we've been together, I can literally count on one hand the number of times we've talked on the phone. Actually, I just need two fingers. Does the fact that we don't talk voice-to-voice every day mean there is something lacking in our communication? Or have we defined a modern relationship that's an extension of the technology of our times? The way couples interact has changed, relationships have entered the modern age of couples communicating. Couples Communicating in the Modern Age 1 in 10 couples only talk by phone via text or through email.According to a study from 2010, 1 in 10 couples only talk by phone via text or through email. Even in their home lives together, I personally know some couples who text each other rather than walk from one room to the next. So it looks like we aren't the only ones who've at least somewhat given over to the modern age. Yet, is it really so different from the relationships of my past? My first serious relationship began my senior year…